Redemptive Motherhood is about conscious and intentional living. To live out of our subconscious is to live out of patterns unknown and unaware to us, except what is unknown and unaware to us as mothers are at the forefront of our children’s awareness. These patterns will become critical components of their makeup and formation if we do not interrupt them with personal work. They may not have the words for these experiences now as children, but one day they will. These patterns continue from one family system to another until just one person is ready to do the work, story work.

You and I are part of a story, and we are a whole story all at the same time—Unique in our individuality and part of something so much more significant. And so are our children.

Often, having children is what begins the questioning about story. We find our humanity hidden within our story at the intersection of beauty and brokenness. Our story tells us how we were loved as a child, how we were heard, seen, approached, talked to, regarded, etc. Our story reveals what roles we were given and what roles we took on. Our story shows us the voices embedded in our thinking. Our stories give us insight to how to we experience love, show love. Our stories create in us our views, perspectives, and beliefs about the world. Hidden deep within the shadows, our stories also reveal the pain, the hurt, the things unseen that don’t just go away. The unspoken moments that go into our subconscious and begin to shape the way we stimulate the environment around us, the way we react, the ways we respond.

Our story has everything to do with our Motherhood. It goes beyond our present story, this engagement of story reaches and touches the hem of the generational story we are a part of, patterns passed down the mother line.

This is some of the most intricate and complex work I have ever done. Story work. And it is the basis for all I am doing and will be doing.

My year at The Allender Center, learning this theory and applying this method in raw and real ways, left me forever changed. (Click here to read more on the Allender Theory) I then went on to attain my master’s in counseling to be able to offer this story work in a rounded holistic way. I am halfway done and already planning how I will be able to come alongside mothers and walk with them on this journey. For now, be on the lookout for publications, blogs, and courses.

I am thankful to be on this journey. I was once told that the journey is the prize, just as the gift is hidden within the wound. I believe it with everything in me. The work we are doing in ourselves and in our homes, this is Kingdom work. As we break chains and break generational patterns we redeem our family lines, we redeem the family system as a whole.

Warmly,
Lillie